Hi, I’m Tese.
ICF Certified life coach, mother, artist and kindhearted collaborator, dedicated to supporting you through your personal evolution.
Kindness: It’s A POWERFUL agent for change.
I coach women who long to feel more alive and connected - to themselves and others. I help my clients overcome the feelings of being stuck and disconnected so that they may feel vibrant and strong even during challenging times. There’s no judgement here, only kindness and curiosity.
My clients learn to cultivate a healthy, loving connection to themselves. They form fresh perspectives, gain emotional freedom and create more purposeful lives that authentically reflect who they are.
I’ve been stuck in anxiety, self-doubt, and disconnection myself. The kindness of others enabled me to embark on my own healing journey and it transformed my experience of myself, my relationships, and the world around me. Finding the right kind of help wasn’t as straightforward as a Google search, it was really hard. I hope I can save you some legwork.
I’m sincerely glad you found your way here.
I hope you’ll stay awhile, I’m here to help you step off the drama train and into emotional balance and well-being. With a grateful heart, I welcome you.
THE EMPOWERMENT OF COMPASSIONATE SELF-INQUIRY; IT WILL CHANGE YOU.
A core part of my role as a life coach is to support my client’s self-inquiry process as they unwind and overwrite lifelong emotional habits that keep them from fully engaging in their lives. That inner voice is working from an old story that was created at a young age, and imprinted within the subconscious. That old story seems like today’s news to the nervous system, and it responds to the perceived threat. Many of us are still letting that voice make critical decisions about how we relate to ourselves and others. Cultivating a capacity to see a more complete, nuanced reality and take full ownership of life experiences is empowering. In order to do the work, we need self-awareness and self-compassion. And we need to have a better understanding of how our nervous system works.
Belonging
You Long to Belong
Your desire to belong is an innate human need. We crave it so deeply that we may make choices for ourselves based on our perception of other people’s needs or values. Whether that’s in school, work, or within a family. When we make choices to “fit in” we often ignore our own needs. Over time, we loose touch with our needs and desires. And when we don’t know ourselves, true belonging seems impossible. I believe by first accepting and knowing ourselves, and making choices based on our values, we can learn to belong to ourselves. That sense of self-knowledge is an anchor for belonging.
Compassion
I accept myself just as i am
Perhaps self-compassion sounds too simple a solution to be the catalyst for radical change. In my experience self-compassion is not simple, moreover, it’s an iterative process that is often slow. Self-compassion combined with the perspective gained through mindful practice is a cornerstone to an authentic life - and a feeling of true belonging. In her book, Radical Self Acceptance, Tara Brach says: “Awakening self-compassion is often the greatest challenge people face on the spiritual path.” It truly does take practice to be kind to yourself, and kindness does promote radical change.
Evolution
Find space and perspective
There is space between your emotions and your reality, even if you don’t often take notice of it. With practice, you can cultivate and grow the sacred space between the two. Shift your perspective. Here’s what happens when you enter that space; you find connection, patience, reflection, courage, healing, forgiveness, and expansiveness. It’s from there you can create your new, healthier relationship with You. I think the space between emotions and reality is what Rumi is talking about when he says: “You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the entire ocean in a drop.”
“True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are. ”